Psycology behind shukar

On May 26th, 2013, posted in: Blog, Spirituality by 0 Comment


Attitude of Gratitude – The psychology behind Shukr!


She opens her wardrobe. Two dozen dresses of red, yellow, orange, pink and you-name-it colours are hanging in there.  After a cursory glance, she bangs the door shut.
“Mom, I have ‘nothing’ to wear for the party.  I’ve been begging you to take me shopping since ages.  You never listen to me.  What do I do now?”

He is rummaging the fridge for the fourth time.  Pizza, chocolate, ice-cream, fruits and juices are stuffed inside.  He leaves the kitchen despondently.
“There’s really nothing much to eat in here. Let’s go to the café for and have some decent food today.”

She wakes up with the same feelings of depression and dread.  Thoughts of suicide are again floating in her mind.  She is married to a handsome man, with two lovely kids, a home, a car- everything most women would ask for.  Apparently, life is perfect but there is “something” missing.  It is just because she is not married to the man of her dreams.

He thinks that his life sucks. He is seventeen years old. He has an iPhone, Core I-7 Dell, 1000 bucks monthly pocket money but according to him, his life sucks.  He can’t focus on his textbook.  He slams it shut and starts pacing in the room as he thinks out aloud.
“If my friend can own a Jaguar, why the hell, can’t I? Everything sucks.”

Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?

learn to apprecite

The ingratitude habit.


As we grow up, we get tuned to be unthankful and not to see the blessings in our life. We focus all our energy and attention towards finding out the stuff that is lacking in our lives. This is really ironic because the more we focus on scarcity, the more we tend to attract it.


Western Researches v/s 1400-year old message


Research has proven that through our thoughts and emotions, we emit powerful signals; these signals have the ability to attract signals of the same frequency.  In other words, our positive signals will attract all the positive signals and same goes true for negative signals. Whenever we are being ungrateful, we are actually in the negative state of mind and allowing the self-defeating thoughts to emit all sorts of negative energy from us. (“I never seem to have enough of money” or “I can never be healthy” or “ I can never find a practicing husband” ) This will lead us to attract more of negative energy. Ultimately, we will end up becoming a black hole of despair.  All the worries, arguments and frustration lead to more of the same.
Considering all this, if we want to attract more signals of what we desire to experience, for example, peace, joy, harmony, ease, prosperity etc., then why not choose our thoughts consciously and carefully?

Today, non-Muslim researchers have discovered these secrets in the name of Natural Laws; while these “open secrets” were given to us in the Quran 1400 years ago. Psychologists and philosophers have painstakingly conducted researches and have come up with new theories and ideas.  All this “newly discovered” stuff was presented to us in the Quran in no uncertain terms.  Allah SWT promises “if are grateful, I’ll give you more”.



Robert A. Emmons from the University of California Davis and Micheal E. McCullogh  from the University of Miami conducted a  long-term research project designed to study the effects  of gratitude.


alhamdo lillAH


Here are some of their findings:

* In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised
more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.

* Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important
personal goals over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.

* Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress.
This is a readymade formula for attracting more of what you want in life.

Why is gratitude such a key ingredient in a successful life? Does it make sense now? Gratitude basically helps us make the shift. Consequently, we are able to attract more good, more love, more joy, more money, more health and blissful relationships in your life. Gratitude is one of the easiest and most frequently used methods to alter the signals one is emitting. What we need to master is the attitude of gratitude, the attitude of appreciating everything in life.


Surah Fatiha: A pillar’s pillar


It is well-known that prayer, the important pillar of Islam is incomplete without Surah Fatihah.  Surah Fatihah begins with expressing our gratitude to our Lord for the countless blessings He has showered upon us.  Have you ever noticed that a lot of duas taught by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also start with the same expression of gratitude- Alhamdulillah. The day starts with the supplication Alhmdulillahilazi ahyana… (All praise and thanks be to the one who gave us life..)
What is the significance of this? Allah SWT wants you to start your day in a super charged state, attracting ample happiness and abundance in life.
The meal ends with the supplication Alhmdulillahizli at’amana wa sakana… (All  praise and thanks be to the one who gave us food and drink) Why? Because He always wants you to have better food every time you eat.  The same expression Alhamdulillah– its not a coincidence, is it?

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