Psychology behind shukar

On May 28th, 2013, posted in: Blog, Spirituality by 0 Comment


Gratitude and focus.

Gratitude is one of the quickest ways to regain our focus. When we are stuck, it means we are giving too much attention to something that doesn’t really deserve it. Most so-called problems are usually mundane pre-occupations and mental obsessions. We focus so much on one area to the exclusion of everything else that we create and then magnify our problems. Guess what ? When we focus so much on what’s not working, we can’t even access the part of our brain that provides us solutions. Surprised? Yeh! So, when something is not working, focus on what is working and say alhmdulillahi rabbil 3lameen aloudWhat do you think you are doing by saying this?  You are freeing your mind from those thoughts that bog you down; and you are reinforcing strong positive beliefs that even if some areas are not working in life, others definitely are. In this way, you are able to think in a quicker and better way to resolve what is not working in life. Try it out yourself.



Gratitude – The Practice of Companions


It is reported that some of the Companions of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) even used to be grateful for the calamities that they faced and presented their gratitude to Allah for not letting something worse befell them.  Now that is the attitude of gratitude!

A miraculous phenomenon

Being grateful to Allah SWT does wonders. When you acknowledge His Hand in your life,miracles happen. You’ll be in the middle of a problem and would not have the least bit of knowledge about what would happen next, and suddenly the solution will dawn upon you. It’s like when someone would return you an old loan that you completely forgot when you are in dire need of money. It’s like when you are thinking about your loved ones and they give you a call right then. And when something you are longing to happen, happens; be very grateful to The One who made it happen because it doesn’t happen too often. =)

Appreciate small to get BIG! 

We usually ignore many things that are readily available to us and need a BIG reason to be grateful. Our family, friends, body, health, job, leisure time, education, food, wisdom, smiles, children and even the painful lessons that life teaches us (and the list goes on) are HUGE blessings to be grateful for. If you don’t have the same feeling, just close your eyes and imagine one of these blessings vanishing from your life. How does that feel? This is EXACTLY for the reason you need to be thankful each day, every moment.

 If you were to count Allah’s favors, you would not be able to number them; most surely humanity is very unjust, very ungrateful.” [Sūrah Ibrāhīm: 34] 

Parting words

It’s a pity that since childhood we are tuned to have lust for more and never to be satisfied with what we already have. It is exactly for this reason, being grateful to Allah SWT for what He has already blessed us with is sometimes very challenging for us. All of us need a bit of fine tuning, so below are some tools that I am sharing with you to be able to be grateful to Him and let the magic unfold.



1- Make a list of twenty things you appreciate right NOW. Write ALHMDULILLAH in front of every blessing. Make a list of the things you feel good about and why you are grateful for that thing, situation or person in your life.

How did you feel doing this? Here’s the good news: you just increased your positive emissions and now you are actually able to attract more happiness, abundance and prosperity in your life.

2- Start looking for EVERYTHING you can be grateful for in life and start talking about it all the time no matter how insignificant it is. If you find a buck from your old shirt’s pocket, celebrate. Go around and tell everyone how grateful you are for that. That’s how you are actually tuning your mind to show gratitude for tiniest blessing in your life.

3- At least once a day, share GRATITUDE status on facebook and twitter (or whatever social media you use) and ask others what they are grateful for. Insha Allah, you’ll get ajar for your SHUKR and theirs too.

4 – Standing in front of the mirror, focus on your eyes that can see; ears that can hear; nose that can smell rather than just measuring the size and diameter of that small pimple. :p

5- Try to seek the positive out of every negative. Take out at least three good lessons from every painful experience and be grateful that life threw that situation at you so that you could learn. And then, move on.

In a nutshell, developing the attitude of gratitude to Allah SWT will do wonders in your life. Identify those wonders and be grateful for them so you can have more.

Do share with us a list of some blessings in your life that you are grateful for.  We would like to hear from you in the comments below.

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