Productive Pregnancy

On March 9th, 2016, posted in: Blog, Parenting by 0 Comment

Fatigue, nausea, morning sickness, irritation, getting mad for no reason – can you relate to this? Yes, that’s right. You are about to embark on the most beautiful journey in life. Allah SWT has chosen you for a great task ahead. He SWT has honored you with the task of continuing the Prophet’s Ummah. But these are not usually the dominating thoughts when you are pregnant, right? The hormonal imbalance coupled with mood swings, frequent urination, headaches and back pain do not make pregnancy a good experience to cherish. Well, the truth is, you can choose to make pregnancy the most memorable and productive experience of life or you can spend it whining and crying. Below are a few tips to make pregnancy a joyous and productive experience of life, In sha Allah.

Before we jump into the tips, I invite you to bear in mind that there are four dimensions of human beings. We have a soul, a heart, a mind and a body which corresponds to our four basic needs: spiritual needs, emotional needs, mental and physical needs. In order to enjoy a productive and peaceful pregnancy in the true sense of the word, these needs must be in harmony with each other.

GENERAL TIPS
1 – Involve your partner in everything you do. Learn together and grow together. It’s very important for a father to play an active role in pregnancy in order to be able to strongly bond with his child.

2- Tell people what sort of cooperation you expect from them (ignoring your mood swings, making you feel good).

3 – Hang out with POSITIVE people who boost your morale and help you sail smoothly through your pregnancy.

4 – Keep yourself busy. Don’t leave your normal activities unless extremely necessary. The busier you will keep yourself, the lesser time you’ll have to fret over pregnancy blues.

5- Lead a goal oriented life. Set small targets with your husband and rejoice and celebrate when you achieve them ( reading a book together, exercising etc.) Set a new goal and repeat the cycle.

a – Mental Needs

1 – Educate yourself. You must read books or articles, attend programs, listen to informative lectures to educate yourself about the pregnancy, its challenges and how can you overcome them. It would just be similar to knowing the depth of a swimming pool before diving in. It will save you a lot of trouble.

2- Talk to an experienced person, maybe your friend or your sister. There would be something that you would want to take from their experience. And there would be things you would want to do differently.

3 – A depressed mom equals a depressed child. Remember depression is the recipe for destruction. Research tells us that a mother’s depression affects the normal growth of her child, and affects his/her memory and learning later in life. It leads the child to become fearful. A mother’s depression has far reaching effects. Your mental condition affects the mental condition of your child. Find reasons to be happy. Be a persistent positive thinker and ask people around you to help you thinking positively.

4- Resolve stress quickly. Stress produces a hormone called catecholamine that affects the baby’s nervous system.

5- Read out loud to your baby. It will instill reading habits in the baby later in life. You might need to buddy up with your partner in developing this habit. Let Mommy read to the baby sometimes, and sometimes let Baba do the job.

 

b- Emotional Needs

Prenatal researchers believe that there is some link between a mother’s thoughts and  feelings and how her baby feels, and that from six months on, an unborn baby can share mother’s emotions via the hormones associated with them.

1 – As your baby grows, he/she is constantly getting messages from mommy. The babies respond to sounds at about 20 weeks into pregnancy.

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Lo! We create man from a drop of thickened fluid to test him; so We make him hearing, knowing.” [Quran – 76:2]

 

Talk to them. (Baby, Daddy is coming, let’s get ready. Mama is going to pray, now be a nice baby. Baby, mama is reading out for you, pay attention). They know what’s going on in the outer world.

 

1- If you have decided on a name, call them by their names. This is the time to strengthen the emotional bond.

2- Hug people more often. It produces a hormone called oxytocin ( also called the love hormone) that has anti-stress and pro-social effects.

3 – Visualize. Visualize a happy family. Involve your baby in the picture. Visualize yourself, your husband and baby going out, being happy, going out to the beach, playing and having a great time together. Let your imagination go wild. Keep visualizing until you get the feeling of being in that moment and enjoying it to the fullest extent.

4- Ask for love and support from those around you. Remind them that you are pregnant and they might have to be a victim of your mood swings but gentle care and love given by them will help you get over it.

 

c – Physical Needs
This is one aspect of pregnancy that’s given all the attention. And it is for that reason that we sometimes have a very troubled pregnancy because our focus (and of those around us) is directed towards the physical aspect of pregnancy while the three other spectrum of need are totally ignored. Since we already know much about it, I’ll touch upon it briefly.

 

1 – Every food deficiency could lead to some sort problems in the baby’s development. Have a balanced diet.

2- Avoid processed food of all kinds. Get yourself going on raw food.

3 – Sweet melon, honey, barley and grapes tend to aid pregnancy. Dates help a great deal in delivery, too ( remember Maryam ‘alayhas-salaam?)

4 – Exercise. (Personally, I used to turn on my favorite lecture on my phone and walk for half an hour everyday, killing two birds with one stone.) Apart from that, some exercises aid in normal delivery. You must ask your doctor about it.

5 – Increase your physical activity. The more physically active you are, the easier the delivery.

6 – Get closer to nature. Walk on the grass. Breathe in fresh air. Ponder over the signs of Allah.

 

d- Spiritual Needs

 

1- Never, never, never be ungrateful to Allah SWT for the pregnancy, even if it was unplanned. He is the best of the planners. (Research show that mothers who resented being pregnant had children with more emotional problems. You wouldn’t want your child to be emotionally unstable, right?)

2- Prayer is the best form of meditation. It doesn’t only soothe you but also soothes your baby.

3 – Recite the entire Quran in your voice to your baby. A six-month-old fetus can move his body to the rhythm of his mother’s speech. What better gift could you give the baby than bonding him/her with the Kalam Allah even before his birth? By doing this, we can “expect” them to turn out righteous, pious, easy going and more religiously inclined In sha Allah. ( Modern research proves that “music” has an effect on unborn children and that they are able to recognize it once they are born).

4 – Istighfaar – You wouldn’t want to have the  negative effects of your sins on your child. So be in the constant state of Istighfaar and make lots of Dua.

5 – Get connected with Allah SWT 24/7. He is your best friend. Keep talking to Him.  Involve Him in your decisions. Make istikhara (which doctor to go to, which hospital to choose etc). Ask Him to grant you a safe delivery, a pious child and a happy life together as a family.

Have a happy pregnancy!

 

References:

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/pregnancy-childbirth/fourth-month/7-ways-bond-your-preborn-baby

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