-by Ayesha Zaka

Read Part-I here
Read Part-II here

Bismillah

So, once you have resolved to make a conscious effort to build the Aqeedah, Ibadah and Akhlaaq of your kids, here are some other tips to make the journey smooth for you.

 

a- Harness audio-visual aids:

Use ample Islamic multimedia resources.  Kids love them and learn quickly through them.  Plus, they don’t realize they’re learning and hence, never get bored of it.  This is also a good way to keep them entertained while teaching them valuable lessons.  Here is an extensive list of resources you can benefit from.

Also, inculcate in them the habit of reading, and provide ample literature to them.  Darussalam books and colouring books are your best friends!  Based on authentic content, they are colourful and glossy- kids will love them. Eeman Reading Series by Dr. Bilal Philips is also highly recommended for children from pre-kindergarten to Grade 3.

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b- 24/7 Fun Learning:

Teaching the Deen to them does not mean sitting down and trying to give a formal education.  You just have to be alert, and you’ll find learning opportunities everywhere.  Just keep teaching them in your normal routines.  They will find it easier to absorb and it will start coming naturally to them.

Even when you break your routine for specific teaching, be creative.  It must be fun; it must be something that they look forward to.  Use colouring pages, artwork, picnics, story time and even skits to teach them Islamic concepts.  Make it quality family time enjoyed by all.

 

c- Barakah of the Group:

Get their friends, cousins and neighbours involved.  Host a party at you home in which you combine fun and frolic with Islamic learning.  Tell them stories of Prophets, teach through art-and-craft or have prayer in congregation.  Going one step further, you could have weekly Islamic classes for other children at your home. This will greatly benefit your own kids.

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e- Make Dua:

Never, never underestimate the power of dua.  Allah has promised to respond to dua.  As for the mother’s dua for the child, it is one of the most powerful duas.  So, make earnest dua for your children and seek out the best times: in sujood, at tahajjud, at iftar, etc

Also, make sure it does not become a mere ritual where you routinely ask Allah without your heart in it.  Rather, upgrade you duas.  Instead of just asking for generalities like make them pious, give them Jannah etc., make specific dua too.

Is your child not being regular in prayers? Ask Allah.

Do you want to make him/her a hafidh? Ask Allah.

Is he/she using foul language? Ask Allah.

Keep upgrading and evolving your duas. If you have three children, ask Allah separately for each of them being specific about what you want and dream for them.

                              “And your Rabb says: “Call on Me; I will answer your (Prayer)..” (Ghaafir:60)

 

Ifs and Buts

Now, for the ifs that might be bugging you: If you have never been doing all of the above, it will initially seem weird and abnormal to you and those around.  But stick to it consistently, and soon it will become the new normal!  If you find your self poorly equipped, equip yourself! A mommy’s got to do what a mommy’s got to do! Learn, buy books, take advice, surf websites, build your own Islamic knowledge.  Just as you learned to change their diapers and bathe their slippery bodies and clip their tiny nails, learn what you need to learn to bring up your children so that they make you proud in this world and on the Day of Judgment too!  If the task seems daunting, make dua, stay focused and have tawakkul.

 

A Good Sign

This is a long-term project, so don’t expect overnight results.  Raising a child is like nurturing a seed until it becomes a tree.  Slow and steady does it.  However, within a few weeks, you will start to spot signs that you efforts are bearing fruit.  A very uncomfortable yet very positive sign that your efforts are paying off, is when the roles are reversed and the kids start teaching you.  It means that you have taught them really well.  They will catch your slip of tongue and action, whenever they can!

You might put down the phone after talking with Nano and Junior will immediately ask why you were eating Daddy’s dead flesh! Ouch!

You might tell a ‘small’ lie to your neighbor and your little princess will tell you that the angels have run away because of the bad smell emanating from your mouth! Pow!

You are busy shopping with Khala for her wedding in a crowded bazaar and the nephew will tug at your dupatta telling you that the Azan for Maghrib has been given, and you all need to make Wudu and pray.

And when your face turns red in anger, you clench your fists, and are about to yell at your tiny young man for breaking the vase, he will tell you: “Mummy, say Aouzubillah quickly” Laugh or cry? Laugh and thank Allah!

 

Results

Results are solely in the hands of Allah.  Even from amongst the offsprings of Prophets were those who rejected faith!  With His Infinite Wisdom, only Allah guides whom He wills.  Our job is to make our best efforts and we will be held accountable for that.

“You can not guide whom you love but Allah guides who He Wills..” (Al-Qasas: 56)

 

Cherry on the top

When you accept the challenge, and take your job description seriously, the biggest beneficiary will be yourself.  In trying to build your children’s Iman, you will see your own Iman sky-rocket.  As you do your research to be able to teach them, your own Iman will get refreshed.  As you mention Allah to them often, you will find the rust being cleaned from your own heart.  As you make duas with them all the time, you will find yourself drawing closer to Him.   And then, as you draw closer to Him, He will make your job easier for you!  He will hold your hand and guide you.  All in all, its a win-win for you.

“And those who strive in Our (cause),- We will certainly guide them to our Paths: For verily Allah is with those who do right.” (al- Ankaboot: 69)

 

Keeping the goal in mind

When in the nitty-gritty of everyday living, you find yourself hard-pressed to fulfill even the physical needs of your kids, let alone their spiritual needs, remind yourself of the ultimate goal: Mommy, lets go to Jannah together! Insha Allah

Now, you can’t give up on that, can you?

“Gardens of perpetual bliss: they shall enter there, as well as the righteous among their fathers, their spouses, and their offspring: and angels shall enter unto them from every gate (with the salutation): Peace unto you for that you persevered in patience! Now how excellent is the final home!” (ar-Raad: 23-24) 

 

May Allah guide you and your families. May Allah make your children the coolness of your eyes.  Ameen.

Meet the author:

Ayesha Zaka has done her her M.Phil in Molecular Biology. She is a student of the Quran, and has a passion for teaching

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